We all aim to have a happy life and want the people we love to be happy too, don’t we? Well, if that’s the case, how do we explain that despite decades of economic growth we are no happier today than we were sixty years ago1???
Maybe because everyone has their own inner resistance to happiness…
Despite spending a lot of time and energy striving for happiness, we as human beings aren’t especially comfortable or skilled at feeling good or being at peace. School teaches us a lot of things, but there are no classes on how to deal with happiness.
If we were to take the time to look within and uncover why we resist happiness, the answer would likely be related to either fear or self-sabotage.
- FEAR of achieving our full potential. Because when we become the best we can be, that means there’s no more excuse for why we aren’t making our dreams come true.
- SELF-SABOTAGE when times are «too» good. Because we believe that we only deserve limited happiness and keep some dreams to ourselves because we think they’re out of reach.
This common feeling is called an “upper-limit mindset” and it’s a lot like having a warning system that tells us that we can only achieve a certain amount of happiness and nothing more. With this mindset in place, we might be experiencing a happy period where everything is going well, but some part of us will begin to feel uncomfortable about it. And in order to get things back to “normal,” we’ll start to create needless obstacles and drama in our life.
No one said life would be easy, and sometimes it can really feel like an endless swamp of problems, but next time you’re afraid, uncomfortable or concerned, ask yourself: is this an issue I have control over? More often than not, our worries are pointless, since they’re about something we simply can’t control. And so the only thing to do is LET GO.
In the event that you do have control over the issue however, don’t prolong the worry and take action. Our actions and choices directly affect our happiness. What makes us happy has less to do with our money or possessions and more to do with our attitudes and relationships to other people, so it’s time rethink your priorities and find practical ways to increase our well-being while making others happier too!!!